Wednesday, November 23, 2005

Grossed Out and Lost in Translation

I saw the most disturbing, icky, gross thing on VH1 last night. The Secret Life of Swingers (http://www.vh1.com/shows/dyn/vh1_news_presents/80253/episode_about.jhtml) was on their late night programming. Aside from the fact that people who swing are having affairs on their partners, this just really grossed me out. I can’t get one scene out of my head which was 2 couples who had switched but all 4 people were in the same bed together. I got physically ill and I only watched about 2 minutes of this show. I was discussing it with a friend of mine today and we were really abhorred.

I’m all for exploring your sexuality, but if you want to sew your oats, don’t do it while you are in a relationship with someone else. Just because the two of you agree that it’s OK doesn’t make it right. On a more political issue, just because someone kills someone else, doesn’t mean that they should be put to death. Different scenarios I know, but I think you get my point.

The whole thing just grossed me out. Swinging is obviously not something that I will ever be OK with. I called my husband while he was at work and I told him under no circumstances will swinging ever be brought up as even a last ditch effort to spice up our sex life through fantasy. I told him even if it takes me 57 lifetimes to reach enlightenment it will never be an option, so don’t even think about it.

I’m glad we agreed.

In Adoptions News……
Nothing.
I think we are lost in translation. It has be 7 ½ weeks now and we haven’t heard whether we are done being translated or if we are officially waiting for a referral. My hubby did call our agency last week and he did get some news. Our agency is currently restructuring their staff. They are also opening a new office in Texas so their staff is pretty thin. The kicker? Our case worker is currently experiencing complications due to a high risk pregnancy. She is our second case worker with this agency. Her clients are being shuffled around to the rest of the staff, and I think that we are going to be working with the director of the agency. I’m having severe questions in whether we chose the right one. But as it stands right now, we are $10,000 into this process. As far as I’m concerned, there is no turning back.

The fact that our case worker was pregnant was information that my husband said getting was like pulling teeth. I was concerned about her because she had always been a daily participator in our support group. It had been 3 weeks since we heard anything from her so I made sure that hubs asked about her. That’s how he found out the rest of the story.