I am sickened by the saga of Terry Shiavo. My heart goes out to her and her family. I honestly don't know what I would do in her parent's situation, but I don't think I would hold onto hope for 10 years. Seems despartate to me. Instead of letting her pass long ago, they have been losing her for that long. I am glad at least that the government is standing firm in it's decision to let her go. It would be so much worse if they were granting that her tube be put back in, then taken back out.... day after day.
I hope that she isn't suffering.
I hope that she will let go soon.
I hope that her family can start to heal, and to love eachother.
Thursday, March 31, 2005
Tuesday, March 22, 2005
Adoption Issues....
My husband and I traveled to Anchorage a couple of weeks ago to get our fingerprints taken digitally. We had to fly. I did not want to drive 7 hours to get there on questionable roads. So, that's another $350 to add to our growing total of our adoption cost. Plus we rented a vehicle, and stayed an extra night so that we could reconnect. We had a nice time. The frustrating thing? I thought that we would get the document that we needed right then so that we could get all of our other documents sent off to be apostilled. No such luck. We will have to wait about 2 months from the research that I have done. I'm following another couple through their adoption blog and they waited for nearly 8 weeks. What I don't understand is since we had fingerprints taken already when we did our homestudy, why we had to have a separate set done. The only difference between them were the ones for our homestudy were rolled. You know... the ink.... the mess.... the feeling like your a criminal even though you aren't.
I wouldn't have minded so much if we didn't have to go all the way to Anchorage. People just don't understand how difficult it is living up here in the middle of nowhere. Oh well, one more year to go.
Everyone keeps asking me if we have a picture yet of our daughter, or if we know where we are going.... NO.... you see, adopting internationally is not like going shopping. You have to get all of your documents in order, then apply to the country, then they choose a child for you. I'm tired of explaining it. A couple of months ago, someone asked me why we chose to go international when there are so many children in our own country who needs families... uhh... because I don't want my child taken away from me after the birth parent changes their mind, that why. When we bring home our child, I want it to be for good.
I wouldn't have minded so much if we didn't have to go all the way to Anchorage. People just don't understand how difficult it is living up here in the middle of nowhere. Oh well, one more year to go.
Everyone keeps asking me if we have a picture yet of our daughter, or if we know where we are going.... NO.... you see, adopting internationally is not like going shopping. You have to get all of your documents in order, then apply to the country, then they choose a child for you. I'm tired of explaining it. A couple of months ago, someone asked me why we chose to go international when there are so many children in our own country who needs families... uhh... because I don't want my child taken away from me after the birth parent changes their mind, that why. When we bring home our child, I want it to be for good.
Monday, March 07, 2005
Creation of Confusion
I think that if a couple wants to adopt, then dammit, give them a child. Figure all the paperwork out later. Let that child start their life with their family without having to make them wait one more day.
On the logical side, I understand that not all couples are reliable and they could just take off without a second thought on following through with whatever legal matters need to be resolved. It's just so frustrating, the more I think that we have another little girl somewhere in Russia and because we have to wait for bureaucracy, we cannot begin to know who she is.
I love my family, couldn't get by a day without them, but my family today is not what I wanted. The only thing missing is more kids. That's all I want. Is that so much to ask?
Ok, enough for self pity today.
Hubby and I had an awesome conversation last night. He had read an article talking about how in a sixth grade class somewhere in the country, the debate of evolution vs. creation is again up for review. A novel idea came to me. Why not let the kids decide what they wanted to study? Is it too much to ask for a teacher who can present both "theories" to the students without imparting their own views on them? The class can be split into students who want to study creation and evolution. They can even switch halfway through the year. I just think that instead of criticizing a point of view because it cannot be supported by science doesn't mean that it should not be explored. I think that we take away a lot of creativity from kids when we flood them with preconceptions that one way of thinking is superior over another.
I have devised my own creation theory over the years and it constantly evolves because of conversations that I have with different people. Just because I adapt one idea of theirs doesn't mean that I abandon my own way of thinking. I don't let my ego get in the way of my creating. And I think the ego is the main obstacle that prohibits us (humanity collectively) from entertaining the vague possibility that... dare I say it.... we might be WRONG!!!
On the logical side, I understand that not all couples are reliable and they could just take off without a second thought on following through with whatever legal matters need to be resolved. It's just so frustrating, the more I think that we have another little girl somewhere in Russia and because we have to wait for bureaucracy, we cannot begin to know who she is.
I love my family, couldn't get by a day without them, but my family today is not what I wanted. The only thing missing is more kids. That's all I want. Is that so much to ask?
Ok, enough for self pity today.
Hubby and I had an awesome conversation last night. He had read an article talking about how in a sixth grade class somewhere in the country, the debate of evolution vs. creation is again up for review. A novel idea came to me. Why not let the kids decide what they wanted to study? Is it too much to ask for a teacher who can present both "theories" to the students without imparting their own views on them? The class can be split into students who want to study creation and evolution. They can even switch halfway through the year. I just think that instead of criticizing a point of view because it cannot be supported by science doesn't mean that it should not be explored. I think that we take away a lot of creativity from kids when we flood them with preconceptions that one way of thinking is superior over another.
I have devised my own creation theory over the years and it constantly evolves because of conversations that I have with different people. Just because I adapt one idea of theirs doesn't mean that I abandon my own way of thinking. I don't let my ego get in the way of my creating. And I think the ego is the main obstacle that prohibits us (humanity collectively) from entertaining the vague possibility that... dare I say it.... we might be WRONG!!!
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